Looking for ways to perk up a stale love life? In my research for sponsors and vendors, I’ve been coming across A LOT of sex toys lately. It’s certainly more than enough to get a girl’s attention!
Some people are hesitant or a little shy about wanting to bring toys into the mix. Perhaps the concern is that it will make one’s lover feel inadequate or that it’s hard to admit that one wants a little… more.
This is where communication is really important. It’s important to make your lover understand that there are different types of orgasm and that there’s nothing wrong with the sex you’ve been having. The type of orgasm that I experience while having sex with my husband, for example, is very different than the clitoral orgasm I experience with a toy, tongue or fingers. Toys are meant to enhance, to add to the experience and to help learn about your lover and what they like.
There are toys for her, toys for him and toys for both. Let him use a cock ring to make sex last longer and then try a cock ring that has a vibrator on it for added pleasure. There are toys that stimulate the G-spot for yet a completely different type of orgasm for her. And want to blow his mind? An orgasm caused by P-spot play will be unlike any he’s ever experienced if he’s open to that.
Quite honestly, I love to watch my lovers masturbate because it’s a great way to see what they like, and that allows me to better please them.
Toys can be used for sensual play as well. Blindfold your lover and focus on erogenous zones using a small vibrator. They can be used to tickle, to please. Find those areas that you never knew made them jump, squeal or moan. Part of the thrill is that they don’t know what’s coming next, when or where. Throw in a massage to the lower back or the neck and shoulders with a vibrator. Do you want them relaxed or arched off the bed? Care to control their orgasm? Get them to the brink of orgasm and then whisper in their ear, “Don’t you dare cum until I say you may.” Seduce the mind as well as the body and I guarantee an enhanced experience in every way possible.
When shopping for toys, there are a couple of things to keep in mind.
There are so many different types of toys that it can be a little overwhelming. The most important part is that it be made FUN. More times than I can count, my husband and I have giggled our way through an adult novelty store with comments such as “what in the world would you do with THAT??” and we’ve certainly
Once you have an idea of what’s out there, check out some of the websites. There are manufacturers and then there are retailers who supply what the manufacturers create. Look at both to make sure to get the best buy and for the best selection. Make sure that it’s a website you feel comfortable giving your payment information to. Some companies will have an educational component or newsletters announcing sales.
There is a whole world of fun out there to be had and to enhance your love life. Whatever you choose, choose it with your lover to make sure that it’s something both of you will enjoy.
And please, don’t forget the toy cleaner and aftercare. Some of these toys are very expensive and the right care will not only prolong their product life but will also keep you nice and healthy.