Did you grow up in a religious family? Every religion has developed rules to try and regulate its followers sexual practices. But what do you do when your faith and your sexuality don’t align? In today’s episode we are talking to Frenchie Davis about sex, spiritually and religion. A few things we discuss: what people get wrong about the bible, why most religions take such a dim view on sex, and the consequences of sex-negativity in religion.
We talk to a LOT of kinky singles, and one of the biggest fears they have is dying alone. In fact, it’s one of the biggest fears we partnered people have to. In a society where we have a thousand Facebook friends friends and can hook up by simply swiping right, why are more people single later in life now than at any time in our history? And what can you do to create amazing relationships and avoid being a statistic? Just in time for Valentine’s Day we’re talking to Robert Kandell about how to find and build meaningful relationships in a world where they seem increasingly rare. Buckle up for an amazing interview.
For some of us, Valentine’s Day can be a rough. Especially if you’re single or broke. Today we are giving you some Valentine’s Day survival tips and pick-me-ups. We’re also reviewing Around the World by Rob Hagains. This film is a prequel to Monogamish, an upcoming series about one couple’s journey into kink and poly. Around the World is being released on Valentine’s Day. What did we think? Listen and find out!
Today our partner Amanda is back in the studio and we’re answering questions from a listener’s polycule about how to navigate group poly. The topics we’re covering include: how to divide time and attention, tips on adding a third, (or fourth, or more) to your group, handling conflicts with multiple partners, advice on finding a unicorn or dragon, and more.
When is it time to take a fantasy out of your head and into the bedroom? Why do straight chicks like lesbian porn? Is it racist to prefer partners with a certain skin tone? Can a Dom with disabilities find a sub? On our first episode of 2018 Cassie and Rigel are going to be answering the rest of your questions that were lost in the upside down. Plus: We reminisce about our kinky NYE party, Cassie kicks a girl with her rainbow boots, and we talk about if you should tell a date your penis size.
The decision to come out as non-monogamous (or not) is a difficult one. There are a lot things that can go wrong such as losing your job, being rejected by friends,or distancing yourself from family. But in spite of the risks coming out can be incredible important because we want our partners and relationships given recognition. In today’s episode Cassie is talking to sex therapist and licensed social worker Tamara Pincus about when and how to come out as well as her new book on the topic.
How do you tell your husband of 19 years that he’s gotten fat and ugly? Is is possible to find romance when you’re dying? How can you make your first threesome a safe one? What should you do when your girlfriend steals your wife’s dog for ransom? On today’s episode Cassie and Rigel answer these and other (amazing) questions.
Do you own a strap-on (or are you curious about them)? Do you want to use said strap-on to create mind blowing experiences for yourself and your partner(s)? We’ve got you covered! Today Cassie and the fabulous Jaki Griot talk about one of their favorite topics… strap-ons! As a 101 guide to strap-ons, this episode covers everything from how to choose dongs and harnesses, to how to wear a strap on, to scene prep, to tips for utilizing different holes, to aftercare and clean-up.
Why does my girlfriend bleed during sex? What should I tell my kids whose grandfather has come out as trans? How can I last longer in bed? Is it cheating when you break an agreement about using condoms… and then get pregnant? On today’s episode Cassie and Rigel answer your questions about sex, condoms, and more. PLUS: The boy who came to do our HVAC thinks Cassie is a serial killer, and we announce a kinky, sex positive NYE party in the Baltimore area.
When did you know you were a unicorn? Where do you find good couples to date? What about a couple raises red flags, and what makes them stand out? What’s it like to have fiancés who run a podcast? In this episode, Cassie and Rigel’s partner Amanda makes her first ever...
Our relationships are some of the most crucial things in our lives. Few of us want to be lonely. But dating is an acquired skill, and some folks just have a have hard time getting it down. On today’s episode Cassie puts on her dating coach hat and discusses (rants about) the nine reasons most people suck at dating, and gives some tips on how to avoid these pitfalls.
What’s the right way to approach someone at a kink event without getting nervous (would naked sword fighting help)? Why do people on dating sites send absurd messages? Should you stay friends with a partner who has repeatedly broken your rules? Should you tell your SO that you cheated on them… two years after the fact? On today’s episode we answer these questions and more.
Is your sex drive different than your partner(s)? A variety of studies estimate that one out of every three couples have a severe mismatch in the levels of their sexual desire. Here at TOF we believe there is a certain degree of desire gap in every relationship. These differences in sex drive can cause issues both inside and outside the bedroom. In this episode, Cassie and Rigel discuss ways to bridge the desire gap and ensure everyone’s needs are getting met. And, unlike most of the resources we found while researching this podcast, we’ve got more advice for you than: “suck it up.”
How do you make your vanilla wedding a little kinky? What do you do when your wife can’t stand your girlfriend? How do you find a “legit” Femdom? Are all poly people sluts? On today’s Q and A episode, Cassie and Rigel answer these questions and more. PLUS: Cassie and Rigel propose to their girlfriend, Rigel tells his partners he caught an STI, and Siri makes an unexpected appearance on the show.
Interrogations. They’re some of our favoritest scenes ever. But they’re also some of the hardest scenes to execute correctly. Today we’re talking to Sunny Megatron and Ken and taking a comprehensive look at interrogation scenes. We’ll be talking about how to negotiate these scenes so everyone gets their needs met, mind-fucking, pacing your scenes so you don’t break your bottom(s) too soon, and what to do after the scene is over. This episode is chock full of examples and ideas you can use in your next interrogation scene. Like that time Cassie and Rigel fucked with someone’s orientation during a scene at camp. lt’s amazing how much debauchery the four of us can pack into so little time 😉