Today’s episode is part one of a two part Q&A, and we love hearing your questions and experiences, keep them coming! We talk about: building a poly-friendly society, the emotions behind jealousy and guilt in open relationships, the biggest myths of monogamy, what to do when a fantasy goes wrong, and intricacies between multiple partners in different power dynamics.
If you’ve been listening to our show you’ve heard us mention the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) many times. On today’s episode we’re speaking with the NCSF’s founder Susan Wright about the important work the NCSF is doing, the current climate around kink and polyamory, and what to do if being kinky lands you in trouble. We’re also taking a deep dive into that most critical of topics – consent. We discuss the importance of consent, best practices for obtaining consent, and resources that are available if your consent is violated (or you’re accused of violating someone’s consent).
Although we all hope it will never happen to us, at some point in our lives we will have to deal with an injury or illness that will affect our play partners, our loved ones, and our sex life. Today we’re going to discuss the painful struggles, the frustrating role reversals, and the disappointing emotions that result from having chronic pain or serious injuries in a BDSM relationship. We’ll also give you some advice on how to cope with these issues so you can enjoy your relationships, your sex, and your play again.
As poly parents we have a lot of questions around the effects that our relationships have on our children. So, we decided to get the answers from straight from the horse’s mouth. Mancub (our teenager) has grown up in a poly household since he was a toddler. He’s met (some of) our partners, formed sibling relationships with other polycule kids, cohabited with two of our partners who lived with us, and come out about his family at school. In this very special episode he’s going to give you the brutally honest answers to your questions about the good… and the bad… of growing up in an openly poly household.
What do you say when your ten year old saw you on Pornhub (with someone other than your husband)? Can you be happy after discovering kink and then leaving it behind? What should you do when your dog swallows your butt plug (and your vet is threatening to file a report)? What skills do you need to survive as a monogamous person with a non-monogamous partner? On today’s episode Cassie and Rigel answer these questions and more. PLUS: Cassie finds a cuddle buddy, we review Professor Marston and the Wonder Woman, and we answer your questions about unhealthy relationships.
Power exchange. For some of us, it’s a need every bit as important as religion, being non-monogamous, or having a child. But as the power dynamic encroaches further into everyday life, boundaries can get murky. In a relationship built on inequality, what exactly constitutes a healthy relationship? On today’s episode we’re talking about power exchange, the rights of a submissive, and what it takes to build a power exchange relationship where all parties are healthy and thriving.
Forgiveness is a powerful and necessary tool in any relationship; one most of us take it for granted. Mustering up empathy and compassion for those we feel have wronged us is incredibly difficult. But in if you want to solve conflict and create healthy relationships, mastering forgiveness is essential. Today we are talking to Sri Richard and Sri Namaste about the role of forgiveness in our relationships (and in our lives as a whole). We are going to talk how to connect with your partners, let go of past hurt, communicate productively, and why forgiveness should never be mistaken for weakness.
Today we are going to be talking the Pleasure Priestess Yarah Sutra. We’re going to be discussing how to create pleasure, why orgasms don’t always matter, and why many of us are looking at pleasure the wrong way. We are also going to cover why you need to love your private parts, how to feel sexually empowered, and how to have fulfilling sexual experiences while saying fuck you to the patriarchy.
Do switches make better tops? Is Dom/Top drop even real? Are there slaves or submissives that are untrainable? Will learning to become a Master save my relationship? On today’s episode Cassie and Rigel tackle your questions, and a TON of them are BDSM related! PLUS: We recommend some butt plugs, a listener puts Cassie and Rigel on the spot, and we have the longest blooper reel EVER.
Most of us have heard about the sexual benefits of Tantra. But what is it exactly? Do you need a yogi’s flexibility to do it? An olympic athlete’s stamina? Can you do tantra with more than one person? In today’s episode we’re talking with Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson, the authors of Great Sex Made Simple, Tantra for Erotic Empowerment, and The Essence of Tantric Sexuality. We’ll be discussing these questions, debunking some of the myths surrounding tantra, and talking about some tantric practices you can start using in the bedroom today.
Non-monogamy is a long way from being accepted by mainstream society. Many things that monogamous folks take for granted require extra effort in the poly world. Nowhere is that truer than when trying to replicate the basic legal rights that monogamous families enjoy. Today we are going to be talking to Ben Schenker, an attorney who provides legal support to LGBT and poly families. We’re going to be discussing legal steps that folks in non-monogamous relationships can take to protect their families (and themselves). We will be covering topics such as medical rights, parental custody, protecting your finances, forming cohabitation agreements, and more.
Did you grow up in a religious family? Every religion has developed rules to try and regulate its followers sexual practices. But what do you do when your faith and your sexuality don’t align? In today’s episode we are talking to Frenchie Davis about sex, spiritually and religion. A few things we discuss: what people get wrong about the bible, why most religions take such a dim view on sex, and the consequences of sex-negativity in religion.
We talk to a LOT of kinky singles, and one of the biggest fears they have is dying alone. In fact, it’s one of the biggest fears we partnered people have to. In a society where we have a thousand Facebook friends friends and can hook up by simply swiping right, why are more people single later in life now than at any time in our history? And what can you do to create amazing relationships and avoid being a statistic? Just in time for Valentine’s Day we’re talking to Robert Kandell about how to find and build meaningful relationships in a world where they seem increasingly rare. Buckle up for an amazing interview.
For some of us, Valentine’s Day can be a rough. Especially if you’re single or broke. Today we are giving you some Valentine’s Day survival tips and pick-me-ups. We’re also reviewing Around the World by Rob Hagains. This film is a prequel to Monogamish, an upcoming series about one couple’s journey into kink and poly. Around the World is being released on Valentine’s Day. What did we think? Listen and find out!
Today our partner Amanda is back in the studio and we’re answering questions from a listener’s polycule about how to navigate group poly. The topics we’re covering include: how to divide time and attention, tips on adding a third, (or fourth, or more) to your group, handling conflicts with multiple partners, advice on finding a unicorn or dragon, and more.