Do you own a strap-on (or are you curious about them)? Do you want to use said strap-on to create mind blowing experiences for yourself and your partner(s)? We’ve got you covered! Today Cassie and the fabulous Jaki Griot talk about one of their favorite topics… strap-ons! As a 101 guide to strap-ons, this episode covers everything from how to choose dongs and harnesses, to how to wear a strap on, to scene prep, to tips for utilizing different holes, to aftercare and clean-up.
Why does my girlfriend bleed during sex? What should I tell my kids whose grandfather has come out as trans? How can I last longer in bed? Is it cheating when you break an agreement about using condoms… and then get pregnant? On today’s episode Cassie and Rigel answer your questions about sex, condoms, and more. PLUS: The boy who came to do our HVAC thinks Cassie is a serial killer, and we announce a kinky, sex positive NYE party in the Baltimore area.
When did you know you were a unicorn? Where do you find good couples to date? What about a couple raises red flags, and what makes them stand out? What’s it like to have fiancés who run a podcast? In this episode, Cassie and Rigel’s partner Amanda makes her first ever...
Our relationships are some of the most crucial things in our lives. Few of us want to be lonely. But dating is an acquired skill, and some folks just have a have hard time getting it down. On today’s episode Cassie puts on her dating coach hat and discusses (rants about) the nine reasons most people suck at dating, and gives some tips on how to avoid these pitfalls.
What’s the right way to approach someone at a kink event without getting nervous (would naked sword fighting help)? Why do people on dating sites send absurd messages? Should you stay friends with a partner who has repeatedly broken your rules? Should you tell your SO that you cheated on them… two years after the fact? On today’s episode we answer these questions and more.
Is your sex drive different than your partner(s)? A variety of studies estimate that one out of every three couples have a severe mismatch in the levels of their sexual desire. Here at TOF we believe there is a certain degree of desire gap in every relationship. These differences in sex drive can cause issues both inside and outside the bedroom. In this episode, Cassie and Rigel discuss ways to bridge the desire gap and ensure everyone’s needs are getting met. And, unlike most of the resources we found while researching this podcast, we’ve got more advice for you than: “suck it up.”
How do you make your vanilla wedding a little kinky? What do you do when your wife can’t stand your girlfriend? How do you find a “legit” Femdom? Are all poly people sluts? On today’s Q and A episode, Cassie and Rigel answer these questions and more. PLUS: Cassie and Rigel propose to their girlfriend, Rigel tells his partners he caught an STI, and Siri makes an unexpected appearance on the show.
Interrogations. They’re some of our favoritest scenes ever. But they’re also some of the hardest scenes to execute correctly. Today we’re talking to Sunny Megatron and Ken and taking a comprehensive look at interrogation scenes. We’ll be talking about how to negotiate these scenes so everyone gets their needs met, mind-fucking, pacing your scenes so you don’t break your bottom(s) too soon, and what to do after the scene is over. This episode is chock full of examples and ideas you can use in your next interrogation scene. Like that time Cassie and Rigel fucked with someone’s orientation during a scene at camp. lt’s amazing how much debauchery the four of us can pack into so little time 😉
What are the best products for pegging and packing? Which partners get the boot when you’re poly-saturated? WTF do you do when your girlfriend keeps having sex with your best friends? How do you tell a date what you’re into without being called a pervert? On today’s episode, Cassie and Rigel tackle these topics and more. Thanks for all the great questions, you guys rock!
How do you make a taboo fantasy a reality? How can a couple find their third? What should you do when your toddler has destroyed your sex life? On today’s episode, Cassie and Rigel answer these questions and more. Plus: An (awesome) mom whose son has recently come out to her as gay and kinky reaches out for advice.
Today we’re talking to Mr. Black of the Black Pomegranate about event drop. What is it exactly? Is anyone immune? What can you do to help prevent drop while you’re at an event, and how do you process it after you get home? Plus, Cassie and Mr. Black discuss their own event drop experiences this past DO.
Love and lust. They’re words we throw around a lot. But what do they mean? Are both necessary for a healthy relationship? And the big question: How do you keep lust from waning over time? Today we’re talking to Dr. Zhana Vrangalova about love and lust including: the differences between the two, the biggest myths surrounding love and lust, and how those myths cause problems in our relationships. We also spend a substantial portion of the interview discussing how you can keep lust and desire alive in your long-term relationships.
Are you poly? Do you or your partner(s) have kids? If so, you’ve probably run into your share of questions: Should you tell your children about your partners? If so, when – and how – and how much? How do you explain the relationship to schools, and sports teams, and other family members? What do you do when a child is attached to a partner that you break up with? On today’s episode we’re going to answer these questions and more. Plus, we’ll discuss our three principles for being a kickass poly parent, and the impact that being out can have on your kids.
Can you be kinky if you don’t like it in the butt? Are there any sane poly people around? How do you approach nillas you’re interested in about kink and/or poly? What should you do when you get no matches on dating sites? On today’s episode, Cassie and Rigel will be answering these questions and more. We’ve got a ton of dating and relationship-focused questions in this episode, so don’t miss out!
Who better to talk to about casual sex than the host of the Manwhore podcast? On today’s episode we’re talking with Billy Procida about how to hook-up including: using dating apps, engaging face-to-face, and avoiding regrets. Plus, we’ll be discussing the single biggest secret to getting laid. It’s probably not what you think.