Are you going to die kinky and lonely?
Finding a partner is hard enough in the vanilla world. But it can seem impossible in the kink world. You want to find a quality partner, but you want to find someone who meets your unique needs. It can be hard to know the best path because most of the information out there targets vanilla relationships.
If you find yourself asking yourself: What do I need to know before getting started? Do I have a better chance of meeting someone online or offline? Where do the kinky people hang out? How should I approach a potential partner?
Then this article is for you.
Consent is important. Super fucking important. In fact, it’s the one thing that differentiates BDSM from abuse.
The concept of consent isn’t hard. But as with anything the devil is in the details.
And when it comes to consent those details are in how we negotiate. Consent is a concept. But negotiation is how we put that concept into action.
We put this video together to teach you good negotiation skills. Watch it. Use it. Share it.
We often hear the word “fair” used to describe our dating relationships. Our definition of fairness is often vague, because most of us use the word to describe a sort of ideal, healthy dating relationship without ever stopping to consider what “fair” actually means. Since we view it more as an ideal than a skill we never stop to consider what “fair” actually means. That’s a problem, because if you want to find, get, and keep quality partners, fairness is a skill you have to master.
When someone we’re dating decides to move on it’s easy to blame them for the end of the relationship. It’s much harder to acknowledge the truth that our own bad habits are often at fault. Relationship after relationship we keep making the same mistakes, and wonder why we keep getting the same results. It’s the very definition of insanity. If this sounds like you, I want to help. Here are eleven immature dating habits that you should start breaking today:
Online dating can be a minefield for anyone. When you’re kinky, and you identify yourself as such, you get a wide variety of messages: hilarious, irritating, flattering, confusing and just plain gross. After a period of time using a popular dating site and a hookup app, I began noticing that most of the men on these sites fall into one of five categories. I have written up these Online Dating Archetypes and their typical messages here for your entertainment.