#034: You’re Not Broken: BDSM, Injury, and Illness

We all hope it will never happen to us. But at some point, we all have to deal with an injury or illness affects our play partners, loved ones, and sex life.

Today we discuss the painful struggles that result from chronic pain and serious injuries in a BDSM relationship. The frustrating role reversals. The disappointing emotions. And how to cope with these issues so you can enjoy your relationships, your sex, and your play again.

PLUS: A lot of talk about hoes, and Cassie compares play to crab cakes.

NOTE: Updated 06/26/18 to reflect safety information about using violet wants with heart conditions.

Here’s a picture of Cassie’s car after her first accident (she was on the passenger side).

A red car with the roof completely crushed on the passenger side

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