#032: Pornhub Drama, Njoy Bloopers, and Wonder Woman

#032: Pornhub Drama, Njoy Bloopers, and Wonder Woman

What do you say when your ten year old saw you on Pornhub (with someone other than your husband)? Can you be happy after discovering kink and then leaving it behind? What should you do when your dog swallows your butt plug (and your vet is threatening to file a report)? What skills do you need to survive as a monogamous person with a non-monogamous partner? On today’s episode Cassie and Rigel answer these questions and more. PLUS: Cassie finds a cuddle buddy, we review Professor Marston and the Wonder Woman, and we answer your questions about unhealthy relationships.

#031: Touch of Flavor’s Guide to Healthy Power Exchange

#031: Touch of Flavor’s Guide to Healthy Power Exchange

Power exchange. For some of us, it’s a need every bit as important as religion, being non-monogamous, or having a child. But as the power dynamic encroaches further into everyday life, boundaries can get murky. In a relationship built on inequality, what exactly constitutes a healthy relationship? On today’s episode we’re talking about power exchange, the rights of a submissive, and what it takes to build a power exchange relationship where all parties are healthy and thriving.

#030: The Power of Forgiveness with Sri Richard and Sri Namaste

#030: The Power of Forgiveness with Sri Richard and Sri Namaste

Forgiveness is a powerful and necessary tool in any relationship; one most of us take it for granted. Mustering up empathy and compassion for those we feel have wronged us is incredibly difficult. But in if you want to solve conflict and create healthy relationships, mastering forgiveness is essential. Today we are talking to Sri Richard and Sri Namaste about the role of forgiveness in our relationships (and in our lives as a whole). We are going to talk how to connect with your partners, let go of past hurt, communicate productively, and why forgiveness should never be mistaken for weakness.

#024: Dying Alone Sucks (Here’s How to Avoid It) with Robert Kandell

#024: Dying Alone Sucks (Here’s How to Avoid It) with Robert Kandell

We talk to a LOT of kinky singles, and one of the biggest fears they have is dying alone. In fact, it’s one of the biggest fears we partnered people have to. In a society where we have a thousand Facebook friends friends and can hook up by simply swiping right, why are more people single later in life now than at any time in our history? And what can you do to create amazing relationships and avoid being a statistic? Just in time for Valentine’s Day we’re talking to Robert Kandell about how to find and build meaningful relationships in a world where they seem increasingly rare. Buckle up for an amazing interview.

#013: When Sex Drives Collide: Bridging the Desire Gap

#013: When Sex Drives Collide: Bridging the Desire Gap

Is your sex drive different than your partner(s)? A variety of studies estimate that one out of every three couples have a severe mismatch in the levels of their sexual desire. Here at TOF we believe there is a certain degree of desire gap in every relationship. These differences in sex drive can cause issues both inside and outside the bedroom. In this episode, Cassie and Rigel discuss ways to bridge the desire gap and ensure everyone’s needs are getting met. And, unlike most of the resources we found while researching this podcast, we’ve got more advice for you than: “suck it up.”

#007: Love vs Lust with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova

#007: Love vs Lust with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova

Love and lust. They’re words we throw around a lot. But what do they mean? Are both necessary for a healthy relationship? And the big question: How do you keep lust from waning over time? Today we’re talking to Dr. Zhana Vrangalova about love and lust including: the differences between the two, the biggest myths surrounding love and lust, and how those myths cause problems in our relationships. We also spend a substantial portion of the interview discussing how you can keep lust and desire alive in your long-term relationships.