Some of us may have months or years of doing all those wild kinky things under our belts but that doesn’t mean every person we date is going to have the same experience level. So, here are 4 ways to ease into kink in your relationship without scaring away a new partner:
- Take baby steps: If you are trying to up the kink anti without freaking your partner out the best thing you can do is take it slow. For example, if you really want to try getting paddled you may want to may want to start off with asking them to smack you bottom while you are having sex or if putting your lover in metal shackles is what you crave try Saran wrap first. Once you see their reaction you will get a better idea of how open they are to a particular activity. If they are having fun with it add in more items.
- Change the scenery: Outdoor sex is exciting but having sex in public for the first time may be intimidating for someone who has never had sex anywhere but in their bedroom or shower. Try getting your partner to have sex in different parts of your house or in your garage. This will add some spice while still helping your partner stay in their comfort zone.
- Say something naughty: Talk dirty to your partner about the things you want to try or things you want to rev up while making out with your partner. Talking dirty can make couples strip away their inhibitions. Without inhibition, you’ll find it easier to communicate because you are more conferrable and your partner will have more of an open mind.
- Don’t overdo it: Don’t spend tons of money on BDSM equipment and sex toys, large investments are scary and my freak your partner out. Start of buying one or two reasonably priced items. Once you have those and have tried them out modestly add other things to your collection.