So, you want to add a little kink into your bedroom?
Before you start engaging in kinky play it’s important to discuss who will be in charge. One of you should be the leader and one the follower, or you can take turns. If you both have different fantasies, decide who gets to act out their fantasy first.
Discuss what both of you want to try and the things you don’t. Never push your partners limits the first couple times you do kinky play. Take baby steps and do those activities both partners want to do.
In almost any kind of kinky sex, but especially in fantasies, there is one essential step of planning which must never be forgotten: the “safe word.” For some submissives to have his or her fantasy take wing, he or she must be able to shout, “Oh, please no. Stop!” — and
It is commonly recommended that when starting you use RED, YELLOW, AND GREEN as your “safe words”. Red means “stop”, Yellow means “slow down”, and Green means ” this is great!”.
Next, comes actually living your fantasy. Make sure the two of you are alone and won’t be disturbed (or disturb others). It’s best if you can find privacy at home. If not, think about going away for the experience.
Before you start, tell your partner exactly what you’re going to do. This gives your partner a chance to object, and also to anticipate.
For example, tell your partner, “I’m going to tie your hands up high and then I’m going to spank you with my hand until your bottom turns pink. Then I’m going to tickle you all over with feathers while you’re helpless.” Or, “I’m going to tie you spread-eagled on the bed, blindfold you, and use the vibrator on your body until you beg for mercy.”
Once you have engaged in kinky sex a few times it will become easier to know what each partner wants. remember to have fun and not take yourself too seriously.