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You’re Not Alone: Finding a Kinky Partner

You’re Not Alone: Finding a Kinky Partner

Are you going to die kinky and lonely?

Finding a partner is hard enough in the vanilla world. But it can seem impossible in the kink world. You want to find a quality partner, but you want to find someone who meets your unique needs. It can be hard to know the best path because most of the information out there targets vanilla relationships.

If you find yourself asking yourself: What do I need to know before getting started? Do I have a better chance of meeting someone online or offline? Where do the kinky people hang out? How should I approach a potential partner?

Then this article is for you.

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Lousy Self-Awareness Is Keeping You from Finding a Kinky Partner (And Here’s How to Fix It)

Lousy Self-Awareness Is Keeping You from Finding a Kinky Partner (And Here’s How to Fix It)

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to get distracted by the wrong things?

Getting out of the house and meeting people is a critical step towards finding a partner. It gives you a feeling of progress, and rightly so.

But, if you haven’t laid the necessary foundation, and if you don’t even know what you’re looking for, you’re wasting your time.

No worries. I’m going to show you the steps we use to help our coaching clients gain the self-awareness they need to find and attract a kinky partner.

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The Kinksters Guide to Negotiating a BDSM Scene

The Kinksters Guide to Negotiating a BDSM Scene

Consent is important. Super fucking important. In fact, it’s the one thing that differentiates BDSM from abuse.

The concept of consent isn’t hard. But as with anything the devil is in the details.

And when it comes to consent those details are in how we negotiate. Consent is a concept. But negotiation is how we put that concept into action.

We put this video together to teach you good negotiation skills. Watch it. Use it. Share it.

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When Fairness Matters, and When It Doesn’t

When Fairness Matters, and When It Doesn’t

We often hear the word “fair” used to describe our relationships. Our definition of fairness is often vague, because most of us use the word to describe a sort of ideal, healthy dating relationship without ever stopping to consider what “fair” actually means. Since we view it more as an ideal than a skill we never stop to consider what “fair” actually means. That’s a problem, because if you want to find, get, and keep quality partners, fairness is a skill you have to master.

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