The Types of Men You Meet in Online Dating

Online dating can be a minefield for anyone. When you’re kinky, and you identify yourself as such, you get a wide variety of messages: hilarious, irritating, flattering, confusing and just plain gross. After a period of time using a popular dating site and a hookup app, I began noticing that most of the men on these sites fall into one of five categories. I have written up these Online Dating Archetypes and their typical messages here for your entertainment.

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These Eleven Immature Dating Habits Are Killing Your Chances

When someone we’re dating decides to move on it’s easy to blame them for the end of the relationship. It’s much harder to acknowledge the truth that our own bad habits are often at fault. Relationship after relationship we keep making the same mistakes, and wonder why we keep getting the same results. It’s the very definition of insanity. If this sounds like you, I want to help. Here are eleven immature dating habits that you should start breaking today:

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Dating: When Fairness Matters, and When It Doesn’t

We often hear the word “fair” used to describe our dating relationships. Our definition of fairness is often vague, because most of us use the word to describe a sort of ideal, healthy dating relationship without ever stopping to consider what “fair” actually means. Since we view it more as an ideal than a skill we never stop to consider what “fair” actually means. That’s a problem, because if you want to find, get, and keep quality partners, fairness is a skill you have to master.

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The Kinksters Guide to Negotiating a BDSM Scene

Consent is important. Super fucking important. In fact, it’s the one thing that differentiates BDSM from abuse.

The concept of consent isn’t hard. But as with anything the devil is in the details.

And when it comes to consent those details are in how we negotiate. Consent is a concept. But negotiation is how we put that concept into action.

We put this video together to teach you good negotiation skills. Watch it. Use it. Share it.

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Submissive Dating: How to Attract a Domme (Kinkly)

Finding a vanilla partner is hard, but it’s nothing compared to trying to find a Domme. Dominant women are in high demand, and it’s a seller’s market. But never fear We wrote a post on Kinkly to teach you how to attract a Dominant Woman. Go read it now!.

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You’re Not Alone: Finding a Kinky Partner

Are you going to die kinky and lonely?

Finding a partner is hard enough in the vanilla world. But it can seem impossible in the kink world. You want to find a quality partner, but you want to find someone who meets your unique needs. It can be hard to know the best path because most of the information out there targets vanilla relationships.

If you find yourself asking yourself: What do I need to know before getting started? Do I have a better chance of meeting someone online or offline? Where do the kinky people hang out? How should I approach a potential partner?

Then this article is for you.

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006: How To Be a Kickass Poly Parent

006: How To Be a Kickass Poly Parent

Are you poly? Do you or your partner(s) have kids? If so, you’ve probably run into your share of questions: Should you tell your children about your partners? If so, when – and how – and how much? How do you explain the relationship to schools, and sports teams, and other family members? What do you do when a child is attached to a partner that you break up with? On today’s episode we’re going to answer these questions and more. Plus, we’ll discuss our three principles for being a kickass poly parent, and the impact that being out can have on your kids.

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#005 Butt Stuff, Bad Boys, and Poly Sleeping Arrangements

#005 Butt Stuff, Bad Boys, and Poly Sleeping Arrangements

Can you be kinky if you don’t like it in the butt? Are there any sane poly people around? How do you approach nillas you’re interested in about kink and/or poly? What should you do when you get no matches on dating sites? On today’s episode, Cassie and Rigel will be answering these questions and more. We’ve got a ton of dating and relationship-focused questions in this episode, so don’t miss out!

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#004:The Secret to Getting Laid with Billy Procida

#004:The Secret to Getting Laid with Billy Procida

Who better to talk to about casual sex than the host of the Manwhore podcast? On today’s episode we’re talking with Billy Procida about how to hook-up including: using dating apps, engaging face-to-face, and avoiding regrets. Plus, we’ll be discussing the single biggest secret to getting laid. It’s probably not what you think.

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#002: Consent Violations and Consent Accidents with Charlie Glickman

#002: Consent Violations and Consent Accidents with Charlie Glickman

When consent is breached, sometimes it’s an intentional consent violation. But sometimes, it’s the result of error, miscommunication, or misunderstanding. It’s a consent accident. But how much does intent matter when you cross someone’s boundaries? Today we’re talking to Charlie Glickman PhD about the definition of a consent accident, the difficulties with distinguishing between a consent accident and a consent violation, how to move forward when a consent accident does happen, and tips for avoiding a consent accident in the first place.

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