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Am I Kinky Enough?

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The following is a guest post by Cassandra Love.

Before I got a job with Touch of Flavor I was just a common participant in kink. In the past few months working alongside some professional kinksters, I have learned a lot; about myself and about the world of kink.

When I first started I was always afraid that I would end up in a conversation with one of my bosses and they would immediately write me off as a know-nothing and quickly realize that I wasn’t kinky enough for this job. But what exactly does that mean? What makes you vanilla? What flavor did I need to have in order to fit into this company and this community? What would make me ‘kinky enough’?
 
I have never been one of those people that were afraid to discuss my sex life so I was used to getting the looks and shock when people asked me a question about sex, kink, or my new job. But the thing that surprised me the most was how kinky my sex life is actually considered. Before this job kink wasn’t something I researched, and I had no idea how in depth the kink community was, it was just something I did.

When my friends seemed shocked from the scratches, bruises, whips, and strap-ons that came up when discussing my activities I would always just write it off as them being less experienced than I or that they just weren’t into these types of things. In my recent months here though, I have learned that I am actually ‘kinky enough’ to be in this community and that the things that I have always considered standard in my bedroom, aren’t things that everyone is as open to.

So again I had to ask, what is kinky enough? And how many people are actually experimenting with kink without even knowing it? Everyone has heard stories or read a book about people into extremely kinky things like electrocution, knife play, and all other sorts of kink play, but what are some more common things? What are some of the things that happen more commonly in the bedroom that are actually the beginnings to a wonderfully kinky experience?

After talking it over with a few people these are my top 5 things that I always considered common sexual practice, but are actually some of the first steps, in my opinion, to experimenting with kink.

In no particular order:

  1. Biting
  2. Bondage
  3. Submission / Dominance
  4. Role Play
  5. Food Play

All of these things are things that I have always included in my fantasies and realities. While in comparison to many kinks these things might seem fairly vanilla, to me they were just the base. These are the things that got me interested in experimenting further with kink and trying to spice things up for me and my partner. Getting involved in these more common first steps are what made me open to discussing and trying anything that comes across the table.

So the next time you find yourself shying away from an opportunity to try something new because you are afraid that someone might think you don’t belong, that you’re not kinky enough, think again! You have to start somewhere and you could be missing out on extremely sensual experiences and the opportunity to find out what you really like if you don’t just go for it! Always be safe and make sure things are being done properly, but never turn down something new if it’s what you want to do!

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