Flowchart: How to Evaluate a Scene Gone Wrong

March 8, 2016
By rigel
Updated: February 13, 2019

This is a flowchart I created about how to evaluate a scene gone wrong. I created the initial version for Fetlife during a discussion about conceptualizing kink as a contact sport. I posted this revised version on social media and got a surprisingly enthusiastic response. It’s since been used by a number of educators around the country, referenced in Charlie Glickman’s incredible article on Consent Violations and Consent Accidents, and discussed with Charlie on our podcast.

Here are the assets for all those who’ve asked. Feel free to link, repost, or print and used as desired, just leave the attribution on the chart intact.

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flowchart on how to evaluate a scene gone wrong

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