It’s possible to make wonderful, meaningful connections at a BDSM play party. After all, you’re sure that everyone is kinky, or at least open-minded. You know you’ll find people with compatible tastes in kinky activities. But you’re not sure how to get around to actually approaching anyone there, or how to get someone to go home with you tonight… especially with all the protocols and etiquette surrounding play parties.
Here are some tips to increase your success in hooking up at a play party without getting kicked out… or disappointed the following morning.
Are you going to die kinky and lonely?
Finding a partner is hard enough in the vanilla world. But it can seem impossible in the kink world. You want to find a quality partner, but you want to find someone who meets your unique needs. It can be hard to know the best path because most of the information out there targets vanilla relationships.
If you find yourself asking yourself: What do I need to know before getting started? Do I have a better chance of meeting someone online or offline? Where do the kinky people hang out? How should I approach a potential partner?
Then this article is for you.
Consent is important. Super fucking important. In fact, it’s the one thing that differentiates BDSM from abuse.
The concept of consent isn’t hard. But as with anything the devil is in the details.
And when it comes to consent those details are in how we negotiate. Consent is a concept. But negotiation is how we put that concept into action.
We put this video together to teach you good negotiation skills. Watch it. Use it. Share it.
A flowchart on how to evaluate a scene gone wrong. I posted this on social media a bit ago, and got a surprisingly enthusiastic response. I’ll probably turn this into a full article later, but for now… just the assets for all those who’ve asked. Feel free to link, repost, or print and used as desired, just leave the attribution on the chart intact.