The Types of Men You Meet in Online Dating

Online dating can be a minefield for anyone. When you’re kinky, and you identify yourself as such, you get a wide variety of messages: hilarious, irritating, flattering, confusing and just plain gross. After a period of time using a popular dating site and a hookup app, I began noticing that most of the men on these sites fall into one of five categories. I have written up these Online Dating Archetypes and their typical messages here for your entertainment.

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These Eleven Immature Dating Habits Are Killing Your Chances

When someone we’re dating decides to move on it’s easy to blame them for the end of the relationship. It’s much harder to acknowledge the truth that our own bad habits are often at fault. Relationship after relationship we keep making the same mistakes, and wonder why we keep getting the same results. It’s the very definition of insanity. If this sounds like you, I want to help. Here are eleven immature dating habits that you should start breaking today:

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Dating: When Fairness Matters, and When It Doesn’t

We often hear the word “fair” used to describe our dating relationships. Our definition of fairness is often vague, because most of us use the word to describe a sort of ideal, healthy dating relationship without ever stopping to consider what “fair” actually means. Since we view it more as an ideal than a skill we never stop to consider what “fair” actually means. That’s a problem, because if you want to find, get, and keep quality partners, fairness is a skill you have to master.

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The Kinksters Guide to Negotiating a BDSM Scene

Consent is important. Super fucking important. In fact, it’s the one thing that differentiates BDSM from abuse.

The concept of consent isn’t hard. But as with anything the devil is in the details.

And when it comes to consent those details are in how we negotiate. Consent is a concept. But negotiation is how we put that concept into action.

We put this video together to teach you good negotiation skills. Watch it. Use it. Share it.

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Submissive Dating: How to Attract a Domme (Kinkly)

Finding a vanilla partner is hard, but it’s nothing compared to trying to find a Domme. Dominant women are in high demand, and it’s a seller’s market. But never fear We wrote a post on Kinkly to teach you how to attract a Dominant Woman. Go read it now!.

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You’re Not Alone: Finding a Kinky Partner

Are you going to die kinky and lonely?

Finding a partner is hard enough in the vanilla world. But it can seem impossible in the kink world. You want to find a quality partner, but you want to find someone who meets your unique needs. It can be hard to know the best path because most of the information out there targets vanilla relationships.

If you find yourself asking yourself: What do I need to know before getting started? Do I have a better chance of meeting someone online or offline? Where do the kinky people hang out? How should I approach a potential partner?

Then this article is for you.

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Group Sex for Dyads – A Test Podcast

Group Sex for Dyads – A Test Podcast

In this episode we’re talking about approaching group sex when you’re in an established dyad. A few of the topics we cover are: Why you might want to have group sex, Negotiating group sex, Common trouble spots, and answering all the awesome group sex questions you sent in.

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9 Proven Tips For Hooking Up At A Play Party

9 Proven Tips For Hooking Up At A Play Party

It’s possible to make wonderful, meaningful connections at a BDSM play party. After all, you’re sure that everyone is kinky, or at least open-minded. You know you’ll find people with compatible tastes in kinky activities. But you’re not sure how to get around to actually approaching anyone there, or how to get someone to go home with you tonight… especially with all the protocols and etiquette surrounding play parties.

Here are some tips to increase your success in hooking up at a play party without getting kicked out… or disappointed the following morning.

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7 Tips for Surviving a Kinky First Date

7 Tips for Surviving a Kinky First Date

First dates are plagued with awkward pauses, conversational blunders, and tons of pressure. All you want to do is impress your date, who is someone you barely know.

When you have an ongoing relationship, you have license to mess things up occasionally. Unfortunately, during a first date, you don’t have a large margin for error. If you botch your date, you might not get another chance.

First dates suck. But don’t fret! I’m going to give you seven easy tips you can use to win your next kinky first date.

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